Mindbody: Cultivating Relationship of Self and Manifesting a New World
Let’s review what we’ve covered so far in this Mindbody series: We have explored the concept that mind and body are irrevocably intertwined, how to navigate the internal landscape of ourselves, and that these ideas and practices are fundamental to cultivating a relationship with “the self.” This relationship with yourself is, without a doubt, the most important one of your lifetime. Not just because it is the only relationship you are guaranteed until death do you part, but because it is the determining factor in your relationship to the rest of the world, your experience of life itself, and your ability to successfully navigate all life’s ups and downs as well as heal yourself.
The way you dialogue with yourself and experience your inner thought world determines every other part of your life. Whether it be your health, financial situation, success with work/career, quality of relationships, or any other facet of life you can imagine, it all comes back to how you relate to yourself.
Self Love: the Ground Substance of Your Reality
“When we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.”
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”
~ Oscar Wilde
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
~ Jalaluddin Rumi
“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Most of us have grown up to become our own harshest critics. At a very young age we were told there is something wrong with us, that we are “bad” or stupid or whatever the reel was in your childhood scenarios. As children, we bought it hook, line and sinker. The Austrian Psychiatrist Rudolf Dreikurs observed, “children are keen observers but poor interpreters.” When we were young we internalized a lot of stuff that wasn’t even meant for us, let alone some of the purposefully nasty messaging many of us endured.
I will let you in on something big…none of those stories we were told about ourselves were true! Yet, all these years later, we are still living in the past and allowing these tall tales to dictate our current life’s health and happiness. And it is absolutely effecting your health. Remember? The mind and body are inseparable entities, no matter how hard we may try to live in our heads alone.
We have been building up to a deeper understanding of fascia in this Mindbody series. As Ronnelle Wood explains in her book Touching Light; How to Free Your Fiber-Optic Fascia, “Fiber optics, the thin, transparent fibers of glass or plastic now used in thousands of diverse scientific and commercial settings, transmit electromagnetic information from one place to another by conducting pulses of light through lengths of optical fibers[…]fiber-optic cameras can now be used to capture on film the fiber-optic nature of human fascia.” That’s right, the connective tissue of the human mindbody acts like a fiber-optic web! Transmitting information across systems of the mindbody at the speed of light. Light, your fascial network, is the primary communication system of the mindbody. The central nervous system is secondary. This is a pretty revolutionary insight, one that new research is continually finding to be the case. To take a peek at what your fiber-optic fascial system looks like, check out Dr. Guibertau’s video online.
This fascial web permeates all systems of your mindbody down to the cellular level. When you experience a scenario that causes fear, like a car accident, a fall or any injury (even heartbreak!) this web tightens down around various structures of the body, part of an automatic protective response. In turn, this traps the chemical reactions to fear that your body produces deep within your tissues. Over time, if these restricted areas are not given the opportunity to release and flush out, other symptoms of pain and dysfunction will arise. Ultimately, it is awareness of yourself and self-love that facilitate this process of release.
The creator of Myofascial Release, John F. Barnes, says this about self-awareness and love in his Book Healing Ancient Wounds:
“The focus of myofascial release is on tuning into our feelings and emotions, which we believe are our teachers. It is through the felt-sense of our emotions that our mind-body awareness expresses itself. As we release the physical tightness of myofascial restrictions, release unexpressed emotions, and relinquish obsolete belief systems, we clear and re-connect with the power and tranquility of our essence. This is when true, authentic healing occurs.”
All you need is love!
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
This sounds over simplified, but it is the deepest wisdom and truth. When you really love yourself you find the time for self-care because you deserve it. Think about it this way; do you have a kid? A furry baby? A younger sibling or relative you love dearly? Think about how you care for these loved ones because you want them to be happy. You know how good they are and that they deserve every happiness life has to offer. Now, imagine fully having this relationship with yourself. It doesn’t happen overnight and we are all human. We will all stumble and fall along any path we take. But when we love ourselves we have the patience to allow ourselves time to really feel and cry out about the hurt, then kiss our own scraped knee, get up and continue walking down the road with a smile.